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Deerest Jounge. I love you.

Aug 18, 2022, 11:39 AM

For realz. I have mostly been lurking now, but I still read a good bit of the shenanigans in here.
However, there are moments in here that completely change my life or at least make me examine myself and who I am.

I remember when my wife first got preggers about 9 years ago and I asked for advice. Two things were said that I will never forget.

One was me being worried about it being a girl and being disappointed. Greenr's response was his first child was a girl and he was disappointed a little when he found out during the pregnancy. That lasted until the babby was born and he held her in his arms and pure love and emotion quickly overtook any disappointment he had. "Then, later I had a boy and was excited about that. Whatever her name is is still doing fine too." That made me laugh pretty hard.

The second thing was something that helped shape my parenting style forever. I dont remember who said it, but they told me, "do not pick and choose your battles, win every one of them." It is hard the first couple of years, but then it establishes everything to be much better as they get older and through the teenage years. My daughter is now 8 and my son is 7. They are pretty neat kids. They are well behaved, respectful, kind and don't whine too much. They also know to quickly stop whining because it does nothing for them. I truly believe a large part of this is because I did not pick and choose my battles, I won every single one of them.

Then this morning, I got up earlier than I wanted to because I did not sleep well last night. I went and read the Bible to them at the breakfast table. It was frustrating because they were kind of being silly. My son was having a hard time paying attention. Not being bad, just not paying attention. I was frustrated and they could tell and it made them slightly disappointed, i think in themselves for letting me down... maybe. I just wasnt engaging in their silliness and maybe that was what was disappointing them.

Anywho, I then went to poop and get my shower to go to work. I own the business and nobody was going to be in today, but I still like going in to help seperate work life and home life. However, when I was pooping, I read the whole thread of Obed dropping his kids off. It broke me down. I finished pooping and decided to forgo the shower and instead, I went downstairs and helped them with their homeschooling. They were both working on the subjects they struggle the most with. But they both did so good. I told them how proud I was of them. The difference in their faces from when I left them at the breakfast table versus how I left them to go to work without a shower... it was priceless. And I seriously have the Jounge to thank for that.

Thank you all. For the laughs, for the stories, for the life changing advice that has helped me be a better person, a better husband, and a better father.

TLDR - I have the weirdo, Christian, homeschooling family and I am thankful for y'all.

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Your family life and my family life are the exact opposites of everything.

My kids are mean, whiney, and all around tough to handle at times. They wear us out. The youngest has a motor that does not stop, and when it does, he just gets whiney AF until he falls asleep.

EVERYTHING is a chore with them, even vacations.

My daughter is decently easy and a really good kid. All other Adults think my two oldest are the sweetest kid ever. My middle son's teacher was blown away that we said he is tough at home, she said he was the nicest most helpful kid in their class.

If given the opportunity to go to work or stay at home and help homeschool, I would rather jump in front of a moving van. We did the homeschool through COVID and it was torture for EVERYONE involved.

I am a bad parent, I am sure of it. I tried to win all my battles but I got worn out, lost a couple, then those devils saw some weaknesses and exposed it. Now they tear a little more away from me every day.

Parenting is hard AF

I probably stretched the truth on a little bit of this. All this sweet nostalgia in the Jounge is either ignoring all the hard stuff or I am 100% doing everything wrong. Either way, whatevs. Gotta get work done sometime.

Deerest Jounge. I love you.

Seriously. I'm glad I came back and some familiar faces were

I do not know who you were.

You were gone?

They aren't turds, they're PICKLES***

Whoa

Same scenario with my kids, teachers think they are the best

My kid's school let's them do whatever they want

Re: Whoa

The subject portion was supposed to say.

Well said***

Maybe don't have eleventy kids and parenting becomes

Nah man, 3 kids is easy if you just put your foot down

I genuinely have no idea how you do it with kids and dogs

When the old dog dies, he isn't getting replaced. I would

You're also welcome for the real estate advice***

I hope you washed your hands

Re: I hope you washed your hands

People make parenting so much harder than it has to be

tmmlol

Glad you enjoyed it

Greenr, I seriously debated whether to reply to this or not

pics of all wives or it didn't happen***

Still in the house flipping game?

I hire most my work out now due to time constraints.

Yeah, yeah...all that's nice and stuff but

Bruh. All that, and your reaction was to go and

We are still in the cawkblock stage of your reply to Obed.

Re: Deerest Jounge. I love you.

Meh!***

The key to reading the Bible (or anything) to your kids is this…

Yeah. I large part of the interest thing

I like to add cartoon voices to the characters when I read

Who do you do? Bugs Bunny? Sponge Bob?

My immense creative genius allows me the flexibility to not

You know, what would be even better than homeschooling

The TLDR was very helpful w this one.***

We homeschool too, extremely rewarding

Me ruv you rong time babby***

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