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Mar 5, 2024, 2:07 PM
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Everyone likes to consider themselves a critical thinker. But how do you know? In my search for a definition I came across this (and I'm paraphrasing):

The ability to form decisions without personal bias AND societal biases.

First, you must be aware of your own biases. How do you do that or recognize it? Second, you must be aware of what is commonly referred to these days as "group think". That to me is just as difficult. I was going to post this on the politics board. But I really wasn't interested in the potential shat storm when trying to use examples.

Just scrolling through the politics board I can no longer discern between a legitimate point and sarcasm. How scary is that? Do these people actually believe what their posting or are they just trying to be funny? Pick a fight?

As for my own bias, being a straight, white male leads me to particular biases when commenting on everything that would be the opposite of those. I recognize (or admit?) who and what I am. Does that prevent me from some understanding of a gay African-American female? But regardless of knowing who I am, society sees me that way. Which leads me to....

Group think. A little easier for me to spot in someone else. A little more difficult to see it in myself. How do I really know that I'm just not following the crowd? You get as much info as you can and make a decision. what's the source of the info?

I remember back when Ruth Bader Ginsberg passed away. You saw RBG everywhere! I have women friends that constantly saw things on social media about RBG being posted by other women that probably didn't really know anything about her. They only knew they were supposed to care about it. For the record, RBG was on the losing end of most the decisions that were presented during her term on the SCOTUS. Her famous "I dissent" cry was everywhere from T-shirts to Christmas ornaments. Why? because she made a stand? Her one decision on gender equity came when she cited a 1986 case before the court (Championed by none other than Sandra Day O'Connor). That case? It was about a man that was denied access to a nursing school. Didn't hear much about that one. Doesn't follow the agenda. but who cares? Didn't mean to go off on RBG. Just an example of group think on a large scale.
Maga does the same thing. How many people really think about Ukraine? They only know how they're supposed to think. Social media plays a large part, if not the sole part in fostering group think. It's set up that way. The algorithms sends you news you're already predisposed to agree with.

This may sound like my previous post of "How do you know what you know". And it is in the same vein (vane?). How do I become a better critical thinker? I realize this post slid into politics. But what about topics outside the political realm?

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Poe's Law.

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Mar 5, 2024, 2:15 PM
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"Just scrolling through the politics board I can no longer discern between a legitimate point and sarcasm. How scary is that?"

Poe's law is an adage of Internet culture which says that, without a clear indicator of the author's intent, any parodic or sarcastic expression of extreme views can be mistaken by some readers for a sincere expression of those views.

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Do you do drugs, Danny?***

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Mar 6, 2024, 2:11 AM
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Today I learned that you can copy and paste and not give credit to the legitimate source.

Fun.

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Step one is to think. So that excludes about 80% of P&R posts right off***

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 5, 2024, 5:28 PM
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This is a great post, because (speaking of biases) it gives me a chance to ramble on about some things I find interesting.

It takes me a while to get a distilled thought out sometimes so I'll just sling some blurbs as I go.


>Everyone likes to consider themselves a critical thinker. But how do you know?
>The ability to form decisions without personal bias AND societal biases.

I'm not sure one can get out of their own biases. They're too engrained. Perhaps the best we can do is recognize them, (or have someone point them out to us) and account for them as best we can.

Thought is a big topic, and I'm not sure how many people think about it. You'll see me toss around the phrase "why you think the way you think" from time to time, because I think it bears looking at on occasion. Depending on the topic, sometimes we generate new ideas, sometimes we adopt existing ones, sometimes we operate from fact, sometimes we operate from desire: "I WANT this to be, and so I present it to myself, and others as fact." Not to be deceptive, but as the result of my own bias. There are lots and lots of ways to 'think.'

Plus, one is not always searching for an objective answer. Sometimes the task can only lead to a subjective answer. So it's not just how one 'thinks' about a problem, it's the nature of the question itself.

For instance, it's easy to be a critical thinker when it comes to math. We all agree on how math works, we all follow the same rules, some data go into the equation and an answer comes out the back end. Easy.

But let's say one is designing a building. Now, there are all kinds of subjective criteria that come up. Is it functional; economical; aesthetically appealing? The very nature of the question is different than a math question. No less complex perhaps, but different.

I had a professor at Clemson who was great at cutting through all that. He'd say, "You must determine and define what you are assessing. You can't say a pick-up truck is a "bad" vehicle because it's not a drag racer.

If your criteria is "what hauls wood better, then a truck is objectively better than a drag racer. But if your criteria is "what has the fastest quarter mile time, then the drag racer is objectively better."

But not every question is objective like those. For instance, what is 'objectively' the best tax rate for a nation? There isn't one. If we know what the criteria are...all the domestic issues, all the foreign issues, etc., we might narrow our opinions to achieve consensus between folks.

But a question like that is not the same type of question as "What's the square root of 69? (The answer is "ate something, btw). So in my mind, and in the way I was taught to think (which is a bias in itself), defining the question is as important as the answer you get. The Godfather is a horrible comedy. And Dumb and Dumber is one of the worst dramas ever made.

Regarding group think, I'm not sure it's inherently bad. Group think in 1400 was that the Earth was the center of the universe. But everyone still lived full lives (unless you died of the Black Plague), so no harm done. So everyone thinking the same thing isn't necessarily a problem. Group think may become a problem when it's "No think." When people disengage from any kind of thought. But, lots of people still live full, happy lives never thinking about any of this stuff.

I don't talk a lot of politics, but in this case, it's an arena that has plenty of examples of conflicting modes of thought. Politics is inherently a group dynamic. Some people forget that, and are even encouraged to forget that. If you live as a hermit, you don't need politics, because you get everything your way. If you have someone else in your life, a boy/girl friend, and certainly a spouse, you learn real quick what politics at its heart is...compromise. And it should be. If there are two people, it’s a reasonable expectation that both should get something out of the relationship. Same as if there are 330 million people in the relationship.

It's also important to recognize when one is in the minority camp, or the majority camp, on any issue. I mean, if I'm the only one in the office who wants to listen to a pron flick, I can't expect it to be played over the office sound system. We had a policy that light jazz was played in the lobby, and if you wanted to listen to something else, you brought your headphones. Which I frequently did. No problem, I was the minority. I got it.


Everyone is expected to fight (through the system) for their own best interests, but the process, the political system itself (and I'm speaking in the most general sense, right down to workplace polices, for instance), can be so convoluted and so complex that sometimes one ends up working against themselves sometimes. That’s not the end of the world. A political ‘loss’ is just a compromise, because your partner in the relationship is getting something they want. And if you want the relationship at all, that’s important. Again, with 2 people, or 30 people, or 330 million people.

I had to convince a coworker once that 'If you vote for A, which you like, it will, by implication, come with B, which you hate, even if you don't recognize that. They are inseparable." (There was no line-item veto in our office either) And that's by design most of the time - in order that everyone gets something. Compromise again.

And in a way it's a Chinatown. One cannot know all the machinations, undercurrents, back-room deals, etc. that are going on in any political environment...from Mrs. Fort fighting over who has recess duty on Thursdays to how much money we send Ukraine and where it goes, and who benefits, here and there.

One simply cannot know every factor, and so one is always operating on limited intelligence. Every time you support something you want, you may also be unknowingly supporting something you don't want, too. But that's not all bad. It just means someone else if getting what they want. Politics is the very definition of 'Chinatown.' It only becomes a problem when the thought mindset is “I must have everything, my way, all the time.” Compromise, again.

So, the 'critical' mind is left to decide "what's MOST important, to me?, and what is just a bunch of chaff, to me?" And I see, in my own life, people going to the mat over issues all the time that don't even affect them. Many times I've asked a coworker or friend, "Remind me why you are fighting this fight again?"

There’s a famous instance in Byzantine history where Constantinople was burned to the ground over colors, the Niko Riots. At the time, there were two chariot racing factions, green and blue. They morphed into political and social factions as well, but anytime you get two groups that big, there is no way they are homogenous on every issue. And so at the basest level, the one and only thing each group member had in common with the others in his group was that they pulled for a color. “I like fish and you like pork, but we both like BLUE!” And by extension, we both hate GREEN! And so, Constantinople burned over colors (and bad Group Think, in that case).

That’s not unlike our two parties, which are also not homogenous by any means, though each side tries to paint the other as being so. The sinister ‘those guys.’ It’s a consequence of both the system…you have to group up with others to have political power, and a consequence of the human mind, simplifying things into “Us vs. Them.”

> How do I become a better critical thinker?

Well, to summarize and finally distill my epistle, I’d say:
1) focus the problem or question, so you aren’t all over the place, and address the specific issue without distraction or obfuscation,
2) gather as much information as is practical, because you aren’t going to know everything, by a longshot, and
3) understand that your answer will be the result of the above factors, plus your own biases.

That is, that it might not be the best, or ever right answer (if there is one), but it will be the most ‘structurally sound’ answer based on how you have approached it. In other words, you’ll be assessing a drag racer AS a drag racer, and not as a pickup truck.

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 6, 2024, 1:28 AM
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You didnt say it in so many words, but I heard this in your post: "Biases have some uses. They prevent rationality when we stop admitting what they are, and wont consider questions that isolate them."

You mentioned Ukraine. Good example. While I like to believe my opinion is due to the fact of unknown objectives, strategy, risks, costs, etc, it is also true I have considered those factors only far enough to say, "Vietnam/Afghanistan all over again." But have I actually considered the answer to those factors today? Do I have a bias that makes "Vietnam" the convenient conclusion?

Conversely, why is the hawk resisting looking at that those factors and history? Is his bias forming his view of those?

"I've seen this horror movie before," is a great awareness. "This is an independent situation that requires a risky action" is equally so. We cant know which one Ukraine is unless we admit we have biases and figure out what they are. We've become so afraid of being called biased that we all pretend we dont have any. It is an accusation now, not a realization.

You mentioned 'group think' having uses until it becomes 'no think'. It seems that's where we are now, admitting no biases because our group is now truth.

Not related, but comes to mind:
I never saw no military solution
That didn't always end up as something worse, but
Let me say this first
If I ever lose my faith in you
There'd be nothing left for me to do.

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 6, 2024, 6:11 AM
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>It seems that's where we are now, admitting no biases because our group is now truth.

Nicely put. One doesn't have to agree with everyone, but they should at least respect, and understand, opposing positions. Most people are smart, and most people have reasons for the stances they take. Though I worry we are inching closer and closer to: "What are you fighting for? Blue! What are you fighting for? Green!" When conflict becomes simply about defeating "the other," and the issues themselves become secondary to victory for victory's sake, that's a bad spot for a nation to be in.


>That didn't always end up as something worse

Unrelated to the main topic, but your Sting lyrics reminded me of this. I have a circle of friends who play historical simulation board games. We're too cheap for figurines, so these are just cardboard "What if" scenarios. Stuff like "What if Carthage defeated Rome, what if Pickett's charge succeeded at Gettysburg, what if the Spanish colonized the east coast before Jamestown, etc. We're mostly a bunch of peace-niks who just really love history, and since so much of history is marked by war, here we are.

Here's a good one called "Here I Stand," about Martin Luther and the Reformation. Can you believe there's a board game about the Protestant Reformation? Like Monopoly but with souls. So many Catholics hearts and minds waiting to be converted. Will the Pope play hardball and start an Inquisition, or will he just rely on his Jesuits to hold off the heretics, city-by-city across Medieval Europe?





You never want to have the powerful “Luther Card” played on you, unless you can match it with a devastating “Papal Bull,” or some Vatican Artwork Patronage like the Sistine Chapel to wow the people. And then there are the Muslims and their Janissaries, who are of course everyone's enemy.




Anyhow, one of our favs is a 4-player game about Vietnam. Two "Allies" on each team. And what the lyrics reminded me of is how all sides are completely dysfunctional. The North has its own problems, but in the South, the South Vietnamese government wins the game not by defeating the north, but by sucking America dry. It's the most corrupt cesspool you can possibly imagine. Everything America commits to the war, they have to give half to the SV to buy off "local politicians.' And game terms, that money goes right down the toilet.

The Americans win by not escalating, but at the same time they have to both prop up, and defend, their money pit ally. And that's virtually impossible to do since they have to hold off both the North Vietnamese Regular Army and the Vietcong, while they are being sucked dry by the SV. Meanwhile, the NVA and the VC are themselves fighting each other internally for political power, resources, and the population.

So all game long, the Americans are just sucked deeper and deeper into a conflict they don't want to be in, propping up an "ally" who is completely rotten to the core. Basically, a 4-way cluster****. A very disturbing, and very accurate, depiction of history in that case. I've never seen a game depict a quagmire so well.

And that popped right into my head when I saw: "I never saw no military solution that didn't always end up as something worse."

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 6, 2024, 9:39 AM
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Ha. Change the name to "Ukraine", same game.

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 6, 2024, 12:19 PM
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I'm sure we're already there. The path is usually 1)intel, 2)special forces, 3)technicians, 4)boots on the ground. My guess is that we are at close to 2) right now. 3) will come if we start shipping serious hardware over there that we have to train them how to use...Patriot Missile Systems, advanced fighters, tanks, etc.

On a side, intel is what opened China up to us under Nixon. China needed intel in their war with India over Kasmir, as we had the satellite photos showing where every Indian and Chinese army unit was on the border between them. We needed an ally "in name" against the Russians, and they needed photographs, and so a deal was struck.

The reason I think we are somewhere between one and two in Ukraine is a great scene in the movie Patriot Games, I think. I'm probably scrambling this horribly cause it's been several years, but a US Senator covertly takes on a drug cartel in Central/South America - A private, personal war.

One of the drug lord's villas is just vaporized overnight. As he's digging around the charred rubble of his ex-home, he finds an odd piece of un-melted plastic. So, he goes to the library and breaks out the books (no internet back then.) He finally finds what he's looking for, pauses, and says "The Americans are here."

The implication being that no other country in the world had the technology to launch, in that case, a fighter airstrike, with a missile that should have completely destroyed itself. In other words, we inadvertently left a fingerprint.

Every time I read about another Russian ship sinking in the Black Sea, I think to myself "That ain't Ukrainian technology, or if it is, it was purchased from America, and it's being spotted with American satellite eyes.

That's not new by any means though. Almost every war is proxy war for someone. An awful lot of the planes we lost over Hanoi weren't shot down with Vietnamese with bamboo spears. They were shot down by Russian technicians, firing Russian anti-air missiles, dressed in Vietnamese uniforms. It was an open secret. We knew it, they knew we knew it, and to keep the war "localized" and not a full-blown nuclear crisis, nobody said anything.

There's another great scene in one of the Cuban Missile Crisis movies, I forget which. We're flying secret U2 spy runs over the island, and the commander tells his airman, "You are hereby ordered not to be shot down. You can have mechanical failure, you can have operator error, you can have God strike you down with a lightning bolt. But under no circumstances will you be shot down by the Russians. There will be no Russians shooting at you from the island of Cuba, do you understand?"

The things we do to keep wars constrained.

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 6, 2024, 8:51 PM [ in reply to Re: Critical Thinkers ]
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Sounds something like Risk. Neil Armstrong was an avid Risk player. I do not enjoy it. So, he walked on the moon and I didn't.

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Mar 6, 2024, 8:56 AM [ in reply to Re: Critical Thinkers ]
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Militarily speaking this is where "group think" goes off the rails. Having friends in the army, the plan is "this is how we fought the last one' or "this is the way we do it, always have". There are systems that are just entrenched. The military is one. Education is another. Getting either of those to not just think outside that box, but to break away from it. When it comes to policy it's really another matter. We not only have to make policy, but decide who the policy makers are going to be. Do I really know what's going on in the world? Opinions and suppositions is all I got. I'm not there so I have to rely on what I'm told. Ugh.

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Mar 6, 2024, 9:50 AM
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Yessir. Dont have knowledge of military, but do of education. While there is much more to it than this, when it was mostly decentralized the "outside the box" thinking happened in very small, unknown events, a teacher or local board doing what was necessary for a student or situation. The formation of the Dept of Ed has made education a top down political machine.

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Re: Critical Thinkers

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Mar 6, 2024, 11:01 AM
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Your thoughts then on education, in terms of the OP.

Both mine were educated in the public system. From elementary until graduation I argued with teachers that they were "teaching to the test". Even as they stood there and told me that the last 9 weeks of school they used to prepare them for the EOG's (end of grade exams). So since funding for a school is somewhat based on performance, and the only measure of that performance is the EOG's.....

I also got a bad rep amongst the teachers when my son was in the 4th grade I called out a teacher for letting them use calculators. I went so far as to say "I thought we were supposed to be teaching them math. You can teach a monkey to push buttons". Yeah, harsh I know. But I was dumbfounded. Then in middle school an English teacher was complaining that kids today can't spell. "All they have to do is right click for spellcheck". direct quote. So, once again, I said, "It's because you're teaching them to right-click and not teaching them how to spell". I got the impression that when teachers say they want parent involvement, they mean on their terms. Not mine.

All this to say that I don't believe kids are actually being taught how to think. Not WHAT to think, but HOW. Another example was during covid and mine were at home trying to do online learning. My son hated it. The reason? he said, "I'm not learning anything. I'm just completing assignments." My daughter loved it. She could sleep in, do her own thing and according to her, all she had to do was complete the assignment by the assigned time.

And why should they be taught anything, by anyone? Every answer they need is now available in the palm of their hand!

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Mar 6, 2024, 1:24 PM
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It's a legit debate. Here's my example.

When I was a senior in High School, we had an AP Calculus class - 15 of us. Our teacher was great...an ex-Bell Labs employee, so she used math extensively in her prior profession. She taught us everything from Algebra to Geometry to Trig right on into Calc. She knew the stuff inside and out. I mean, we learned even the history of calculus...Reimann Sums and stuff like that, just so we'd see how fantastic and easy calculus was by comparison to life before calculus.

But, she taught us at her pace, and her way, and while we knew what we had been taught extremely well, she decided what we would learn. And for her, eccentricity was not on the top of her list.

And, when the AP Exam came around, guess what about 70% of the test was on? Eccentricity. So, the whole class bombed. Not one passing grade. And not because we didn't know it...because we hadn't even been exposed to it. There's nothing quite like sitting down to take a test and not even comprehending the question, much less what the answer might be. So, 15 zeros.

Well, I suppose she got a call over the summer that said she needed to "teach to the test," because the next year, I heard, everyone passed. Now, she was a good enough teacher that she could have taught that course anyway anyone wanted, even upside-down probably, so I'm not really sure which was the right method.

In my case, since I didn't get AP credit, I had to take calculus again when I went to Clemson. But, I knew it so well that I'm not even sure I went to class except to for the last few chapters in the book...on Eccentricity, and to take the tests.

So which was the right way? I don't really know. It sucked to have to take the course again, but, life is long an one semester is just one semester. I probably used the time out of class for something else anyhow. The school surely looked better with 15 passing grades rather than 15 zilches. And so did she.

And, when you are in an academic environment you have the time to fail. Once you are in the workplace, it's performance, and speed, and efficiency. No one is going to care what a Reimann Sum is. They just want the right answer, and quick. It's a good discussion.

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Mar 6, 2024, 1:47 PM
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I like that. I was talking to some people once about how they use math at work. I work in an engineering-land planning firm. My son commented that geometry was stupid, nobody uses geometry. I said son, I do. Every day. It got me to thinking about math at work. Have professionals come to the schools and tell kids how they use math in their job. Then it's real and not just something they need to know for a test. that's really the "thinking" part I've been dancing around. When you were at Clemson or any other classroom and the prof said, "this won't be on the test" did you immediately see everyone stop taking notes? I've seen people walk out of a class when they saw a substitute. Like, if I'm not going to be tested on it, who cares?

In one of my last years I remember someone asking the prof, "Is the final cumulative?" The prof said, "Life is cumulative". amen

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Mar 6, 2024, 2:15 PM
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That reminds me of a funny event. I can't remember where I heard it, but I think it was true.

A professor gives out a reading list to his class and a several weeks later a lot of the students start complaining. One says "Professor, I'm trying really hard to finish your list. My friends too. But it's a lot of work. We're staying up way too late, it's even beginning to affect our other classes. We're to the point now of dividing up the load, meeting with each other at study hall, and providing synopses of the works to each other just to keep up. This is just too much to read all in one semester."

The professor says "One semester? That was a list of books you should read in sometime across your whole lifetime, not just for this single course."

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This is for both of you.

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Mar 6, 2024, 8:28 PM
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Love those stories. They maybe show the difficulty in assessing education. How does one assess, when there are so many pros and cons, such as:

- SAT scores are relatively the same over the decades.
- Prep courses and multiple takes are much more widely used now. Would SAT scores drop without those?
- Achievement test scores have risen significantly over the decades.
- The US scores lower than most developed countries.
- However, the lower economic classes score lower in all countries, and the US has a larger lower class. When that is accounted for, the US scores better or equal to other countries.
- I have heard college profs say that the biggest difference in students over the years is decline in verbal skills (writing).
- Is there a correlation between reading/writing skills and critical thinking?

So, either position - we're improving or regressing - has arguments. It seems to be an almost unmeasurable issue, unless one first states biases, priorities, etc.


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Re: This is for both of you.

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Mar 6, 2024, 11:33 PM
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>It seems to be an almost unmeasurable issue, unless one first states biases, priorities, etc.

Indeed. I think the bottom-line question on measurables, as Hurst said, is, are they learning, or are they just testing well?

There is tremendous pressure to deliver numbers. When parents consider moving to a neighborhood, they look up the schools online, and the numbers. Schools are ranked, across the district, and across multiple districts, by the numbers. And numbers do tell part of the story, but not all of it.

I've got a relative who works at Academic Magnet HS in Charleston, and they're consistently ranked in the top ten in the nation. A few years ago, they were No. 1 in the country. All through the numbers. He'll tell you, and Mrs. Fordt will tell you, that it's just like football...get the recruits. Cherry pick the best ones and you'll all look like superstars. If your end goal is the numbers game.

They'll also both tell you that for most every kid, regardless of ability, it comes down to the parents. That's why neighborhood schools are set up in the first place. So that the parents can have more contact, and direct influence, in their kid's education. Sounds like an ideal model, but what no one banked on is "What if the parents don't care about their own kid's education?"

One never wants to broad-brush, and as I said before, there's plenty of improvement everyone could do, from the Fed level down to the local.

But what both my kin tell their parents is "If you want your kid to have a good education, take a part in it. Instead of dropping your kid off in your golf cart and driving down to the coffee shop to chat all day with your neighbors, stop by the classroom sometime. You're always welcomed. Door is always open."

Monitor them, follow them, help them. And specifically, she says, "If you do nothing else with your kid, read with them. If they can read, they can learn anything else along the way. The Mrs. actually got lambasted by suggesting that once. This particular parent said, "It's not my job to teach my child to read...it's yours!"

She said "Those are the ones I feel sorriest for. When a parent can't even take 30 mins, or an hour, to spend time with their kids and read a picture book with them." As I said, the term out here is "Trophy Kids."

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Mar 7, 2024, 12:45 AM
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My mom was a 7th grade teacher. She graded papers in the dining room while dad and I watched Gunsmoke in the den. A Leave It To Beaver scene.

On my way upstairs to bed one night I saw her crying, papers scattered all over the table. At age 10, I didn't know what to say. She saw me looking, said, "Come over here. Sit down." She showed me a test sheet, had a "D" in the upper right. "I am upset about this young man. He is as smart as anyone in the class, smarter than most. A polite boy. But his life is not good at home, I cannot tell you what I know about what happens in his house. Today he came in looking sad and tired, but it was the day of this test, and he had to take it. These are his answers, and this is the grade I have to give him. And I dont know what to do. I'll do something. But I want you to remember this day, and remember that there is a boy living like this, and that this is why some people do not act like you think they should."

That's close to verbatim. When a parent dies, certain memories become very clear, and this was like yesterday.

I cannot believe someone said that to your wife. The difference between her student and mom's student? A little money, but not much else. If that lady said that to your wife about her child, you can imagine the pressure that then flows down to the child. You wish you could go hug the child and tell her everything is alright. Tell your wife she is a hero in my book, and to just trust that she's doing all she can.

About success-through-intake. Yessir. I used to see some guys at a homeless recovery shelter once a week. A similar one across town has a great program. Strict on the residents, firm two strike policy. If you flunk out (miss class, test positive, steal, etc) out you go, and you cant get back in for a year: there is a waiting line. We were the opposite. Same rules, but if you've flunked out of that program, or that program, or our program, and if you show up and honestly own up to it and admit to the problem, we'll take you. The cross town program was not shy in touting their success rate, something like 50%. And that's fine; I would say it too. We didnt even track ours: we knew it was low single digits. Same type of program, similar resources, similar methods. Different intake = different outcome. And that was totally fine, because we served two different segments: we were the last resort. But that's what caused the different numbers.

So, here is a bet: go to 10 good but normal schools, get their 5 best students at each. Compare them to 50 Academic Magnet students. I bet they are very close in objective achievement. A strange thought: if your child can qualify in to Academic Magnet, they dont need to go. Parental ambition wont hear that.

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I agree with every word.

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I would say that your term "broad brush" pretty much sums it up. Most everything in the public sector has to be broad brush. Here's what I learned from my kids experience in the public system.

One, it's not about being the best school. It's about being the best for the most. And yes, as I am in the development business, schools are the first thing families look at when buying a house. So here's what's happening. We are not that big of a county, Maybe the size of Anderson if that's a gauge. We have 5 private (or charter or whatever you call them) in our county. And their growing. More on that.

Two, it's about the kids. Until it's about the money or something else. Case in point, when mine were just beginning elementary you could choose which school to send your kid to. As long as they weren't riding the bus and there was space available. You could do that through high school. We chose a year round program at one of the schools. Parents loved it. Teachers loved it. Kids did better and it soon filled up. At that time it was the top performing school in the county and 3rd in the state. And they SHUT IT DOWN. The reason given is that the old building it was in needed about 1/2 million dollars worth of renovations to keep it open. At the same time, they were building additions to two other schools to accommodate those kids once the school was closed. Wait, what? Here's what really happened. The year-round school was filled by mostly affluent white kids. The demographics didn't line up. The PTA for that school raised about $15 grand in one night at a fund raiser and bought a lot of things for that school the other schools in the county didn't have or couldn't afford. They could have (maybe they did) buy every teacher in the school a laptop. Paid for completely renovation the playground with new equipment. Bought smart boards for 5 classrooms. But to your point, every parent was involved and not just at the financial level.
I went to board meeting after board meeting trying to keep it open. It didn't make sense. After all was said and done, the school made an unsuccessful attempt to get any monies the PTA had leftover. But, at the end of the day, their thinking would not allow something that was working to continue. No more year-round school. I laugh out loud whenever I here a politician or administrator use the phrase "It's about the kids".

Private schools: My son is about to graduate from App ST. He's a videographer and currently working with a company that is doing a documentary on Providence Day School in Charlotte. The stories he tells leads me to believe that I live on an entirely different planet. K-6 at Providence is $20 grand. Per year. Per kid. 6-12 it's $30 grand. It is cheaper to send my son to App St than it would be to send him to that kindergarten. It's nearly the same of one or two of the private ones here. But not that much. Are these kids doing better academically? That I don't know. But there are other reasons kids get sent to private schools. And make no mistake, they have a lot of the same problems as the public schools. Kids gonna be kids.

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I misstated.

The school board was trying get any monies the PTA had left. Not the school. Should have heard some of the parents in that fight.

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>But to your point, every parent was involved and not just at the financial level.

I really think this is the key. The lazy answer to so many problems is "throw money at it." Money never hurts, but it's not a panacea. As the old saying goes, "Once you've got food on the table and a roof over your head, everything else is just for show."

Education is very uneven but one can find caring people at every level. The Mrs. worked early in her career over at Taylor Elem in Cayce. A very rough, and very poor, school. One mom wanted to help her child with his homework, but she couldn't do third grade math herself. So, the Mrs. taught both of them; the child in school, and the mother on the side, so she could help her kid.

She bumped into the kid a few years later just after he graduated high school. He told her he was the first in his family ever to do so. That turned out to be an education success story, in a very bad environment, because the mother cared, and saw to it that her child was educated.

>"It's about the kids"

Lol, that phrase gets a guaranteed eye roll from the Mrs. every time. It's tossed around like so much cheap candy here.

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It seems that education has become a political tool - another consequence of forming Dept of Ed - so media has to have their competing narratives, which from one side is systemic racism and from the other is incompetence. But every time I meet an actual teacher, I walk away thinking, "She/he can teach my child any time." Need to figure out how to get back to simply letting them do what they can do and want to do.

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I get the same impression. No one spends every day of their work career with 20+ kids if they don't care about kids. And sure, there are some bad apples in any profession...I mentioned one in an earlier post.

But far and away, it's a noble profession full of people trying to do an essential task. Out of a staff of 30+, I'd bet Mrs. Fordt couldn't name more than 1, maaaaybe 2 on her staff who has totally checked out. Many leave in frustration, but if one is frustrated, it just shows you care. And I could say the same in my own education experience. Really, only one in 12+ years that I can remember who gave off a noticeable "I don't care" vibe. Looking at you, Mr. Arthur!

They all have different ideas and methods of course; some are more strict, some are more lenient, some teach to the book, others not so much, so they disagree and grate on each other occasionally. But no one becomes a teacher if they're looking for an easy career, or to get rich. It's a labor of love, for sure, and they are so hamstrung in so many ways anyone can understand their frustration.


On a side, I think it's a real sign of how intelligent the Founders were when on looks at the Northwest Ordinance of 1787...before even the Constitution. Back with the Articles:

"Religion, morality and knowledge being necessary to good government and the happiness of mankind, schools and the means of education shall forever be encouraged."

Tied with the Ordinance of 1785, which specifically set aside a plot of land near the center of every town that was surveyed, for a public school.

"There shall be reserved the Lot No. 16, of every township, for the maintenance of public schools within said township."




To me, that's the Founders saying: "You can think anything you want, and are encouraged to do so, but we are NOT going to have a nation full of dummies, lol."

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Ha. Take a poll today, asking for the major contributors to "good government and happiness", wonder where those three would rank.

Love that city layout, looks like Tulsa. Is a grid of four-lane avenues, a mile apart. N-S streets are named, alphabetically. E-W streets are numbered (11th, 21st, 31st). Within each sq/mi, streets follow a similar pattern. If you have never been to a place before, but know the address, you can figure it out. Then there's Greenville ...

I continue to think about intake = outcome. The year prior to daughter starting K-5, MissTulsa went to our assigned elementary school, sat in the classes for a day. Came home, said, "They're babysitting over there." She got a list of the public schools, went to visit the higher performing ones. Came home, said, "Night and day. The kids there are paying attention and learning." Applied for a transfer, got into Carnegie Elementary. Wonderful 5 years.

MissTulsa didn't mince words when assessing the schools after one visit. The issue wasn't the schools. It was the students. At the lesser schools, parents were dropping kids off in rolling stops, the kids had little respect for authority or for the school. From the first bell, teachers were herding cats. At the higher performing schools there were goodbye hugs and kisses, and the kids instinctively did what an adult said do. The bell went off, kids lined up, went in and sat in class. The difference between the schools was in the drop-off line, not the classroom.

This cut across social demographics. Different neighborhoods had different authoritative/educational values. Those simply gravitated into the classroom

Acknowledging this is the quickest way out of political office. Is this why huge dollars and novel theories address symptoms, leaving classrooms underfunded?

Edit: Daughter's first grade teacher used a little mouse puppet named Squeak. Whenever she wanted to talk to a student individually - to ask a question, discipline, whatever - Squeak did it. All the kids loved Squeak, and none wanted to disappoint Squeak. I am agreeing with you that you don't come up with things like that unless you care about the kids and love what you do.

Bonus edit: Child sexual abuse. It is more prevalent than most think. What little I know about it is from an after school program for inner city kids. There are certain 'tells', and the staff thinks about half the girls and 1/4 the boys are having to have sex at home, though that is pure guess. But they would tend to over estimate (we all think our jobs address 'real' issues). At any rate, cannot overestimate the effect that has on student behavior in class. Is it on the increase? Does it happen more in lower economic classes? I have no idea. My guess is yes to both, but only a guess.


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>It was the students.

Yep. And the students learn those values from the parents. The Mrs. says every kid is a window into their home, and the stuff she hears is sometimes funny, sometimes terrifying, and sometimes tragic. Kids at that age are unfiltered and will just blurt out anything that's happening in their home. She says some parents would be absolutely mortified if they knew what "Little Johnny" randomly shared with the class about mommy and daddy. By and large, respectful students come from respectful parents.

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(I added an edit about abuse.)

Ha, love your vocabulary choice. At the after school program I mentioned, I 'mentor' a 9 year old. Not a big deal; just spend an hour a week with him at the program ... doing homework, talking about whatever he wants. We didn't meet during the summer, and when the program started back up in September it was a bit of a homecoming:
"Hi Jason! How was your summer?"
"Oh, MrTulsa, it was so tragic!!"

How many 9 year olds use that word? Was funny. But, yes, it was. Tragic, that is. Later I smile and say hello to his mom, like I don't know anything. And I drove home thinking, "No telling what my daughter used to say at school."

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My mom tells me this story - I don't even remember it, about me in second or third grade I suppose. Somewhere, probably heard it from an older schoolmate or neighborhood kid, I heard the term "French Tickler." Now, I'm a pretty dogged guy...I never stop asking questions till I find an answer.

But my parents weren't about to tell me what it was at that age. You can't look it up in the dictionary, so I just walked the school grounds asking every teacher I could find what it was. I never did get an answer from any of those sources, and I think I finally must have learned what it was in a gas-station toilet on a family trip somewhere. Back when you could buy them from dispenser machines.

Anyhow, I think about how many laughs those teachers must have gotten from that episode. And how humiliated the folks must have been. Never came up in polite company, but they had to be thinking "what is going on in that house?" Lol.

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Not going to discount parental involvement one bit. Can't expect the student to care of the parent doesn't. Or worse. I have never been in education so I really have only parental biased (ha!) to go on. My initial thought is that each grade level is intended to prepare you for the next. That's where we fall into "behind" and "ahead" mode. Are they where they're supposed to be? Do I have to go backwards and teach what they didn't learn at the previous level? Or are they ahead and now bored with what I'm trying to do? At the end, we have "skin of their teeth" graduates and some that are getting their high school diploma along with an associates degree from the local community college. I raised one of each. Really unfair to say one was a "skin of their teeth" grad, she did ok. My son didn't get an associates degree,. but did graduate high school with 16 transferable credit hours.

So, kinda back to the OP. In talking to a teacher a while back he told me that he can teach the kids everything except intellectual curiosity. I have asked mine repeatedly if there were any courses, subjects etc that they found so interesting they had to know more. Uh......no. The kids, mine included, are uninspired. Especially if they think that the only reason I'm learning this is to give it back to you on a test. But the teacher I was talking to teaches (taught, now retired) music theory and sound production at UNC-Pembroke. He said he gets a full class for sound production but they're really not interested in sound. They are basically asking him how to use the equipment. Which button do I push? Try as he might to get them THINKING about what it is they're doing.

My son did find his passion and is an incredible photographer/videographer. Daughter is still exploring.

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Yeah, interest comes when it comes. I've always been a curious person, just never as curious about the things I was being taught. While my teacher was trying to teach Earth Science, I was probably in the back of the class reading a Spiderman comic, or a book on Sir Galahad, or looking at girls. Eventually I got interested in Earth Science, it was just on my, and not the teacher's, time schedule.

My kin do take great efforts to try and find what the kids are interested in. Sometimes it works, sometimes not, but at least having a reason to learn what you are learning is better than out of context equations or reading assignments. The current kinder model is 'centers'...if you want to play with blocks, sign up for the block center for an hour. If you want look at picture books, sign up for that, etc. I think they have to sign up for everything every so often, to make sure they get exposed to a variety of material, but they also have quite a bit of "flex-schedule" where they can do what they prefer. Plus, they have whole class and small group responsibilities in addition to personal preference stuff, to teach socialization.

As the grades progress they lose a lot of that freedom though. Just like real life. I can still look at the girls, but I can't really read comic books at a staff or coordination meeting. <img border=">

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Yep. Intimately familiar with both. Almost everyone in my family, except me, is either ex-military, an educator, or both. One whole branch, 4 or 5 uncles, were all Citadel grads. Wife and a half dozen of her cousins are all educators. I know exactly what you are talking about.

In my experience education is far worse than the military. The military at least adjusts to technology. This war will probably be known as the first drone war. Education is trapped in a never-ending circle.

I've never seen a profession reinvent the wheel over and over as much as education does, only to end up at exactly the same place. In the 25+ years Mrs. Fordt has been teaching, she has gone full circle at least twice now with 'new' teaching concepts that are a decade old, just with new names. It's a running joke in our clan.

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I getting off my own OP here but,

Personally I think the education system was exposed during quarantine. I am really surprised that I didn't hear more "remind me why we need all of you again" when it came to teachers and building schools. If we can do this at home, from home..... More and more were turning towards homeschool. But that would require at least one parent to be doing the same. I tried, but I don't have the discipline to work from home. NC has some of the lowest paid teachers and I understand ranks towards the bottom in school rankings. Causation or just correlation? But a teacher here once told me that "We no longer teach. We assess."

An army friend said once the military and education are two institutions that need to be torn completely down and rebuilt. I don't know about that. But certainly worth a look. What are we doing? What are we trying to do? I mean really, when I saw the core curriculum that NC had adopted at the time:

To prepare students with the skills they need to continue their education or enter the workforce.

Really? What workforce? What skills are you teaching them where a high school education is enough? And if you're not really teaching them how to think or how to study, take notes, research, how are you preparing them to continue their education? So far you've taught them how to take tests.

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>"We no longer teach. We assess."

There is an absolute level of insanity right now in the education, and it's a group effort - parents, teachers, administrators, students. I honestly don't know how the Mrs. does her job everyday. She is so boxed in, so constrained, and so handicapped that on occasion the classroom becomes a morbid joke. I could give 100 examples, but here's just 2. Now, this a K classroom...before the kids go bad. And this is not inner city, this is in a semi-affluent community of young professionals.

Every year, special needs kids are distributed through the classrooms. That's a discussion in itself. So this K kid, not his fault - it's who he is, has a meltdown...starts ripping books off the shelves, throwing chairs around the room, completely ends the instructional environment for 23 other kids.

So I ask the wife, "What did you do?" She said "I watched, while he tore the books I bought with our money to shreds for a good hour or so. And I wasn't alone." I said, "what about the Principal?" She said, "We'll, district protocol is for the Principal to call the on-site specialist, the on-site nurse, and the district specialist. And the five of us watch and take notes while he wrecks the room."

"Can't anyone stop him?" "Nope. If you touch him, that's either a law-suit from the parents, or a pink slip from the district, because the parents complain and might put the kid in another district. Jenny got a reprimand...a reprimand yesterday, because a 5th grader punched her hard enough to bruise her, and she tried to restrain him." "So you watch, till they wind down, and then you clean up the mess, and if there's any time left, you teach."

How can someone operate in that environment?

Here's the other side of the problem. The district finally brings in 'early-childhood experts' to assist with the 4-year olds. Mrs. Fordt is assigned a woman about a year away from retirement. So, tests have to be done. A 4-year old has to be tested. Wife says "I have to teach these other 23 kids, I need you to see if this child can count, to anything...1, 2, 5, whatever." "Nope that's not my job." "You can't ask a kid to count?" "Nope. I'm an nearly childhood expert." "So what do you do?" "I play with the kids. Except I'm too old to get on the floor with them, so I mostly watch them play." Wife: So your job, in assisting me in the classroom, is to watch kids play while I try to teach them, and assess them, at the same time.""Yep."

That's where we're at. Every day.

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Here' the agenda breakdown, at least in that district and that community.

The parents will do ANYTHING to get rid of their kids. During Covid they went crazy that they couldn't take their kids to school (aka daycare to them), for free meals, and free after school daycare. Some of these young professionals are dropping the kids off from 6am to 6pm, every day. 12 hours out of the home every weekday, at ages 4 and 5. Basically, "Trophy Kids." This is a "golf cart' community, btw.

The district will do ANYTHING to get and keep kids, to keep their numbers up, so their funding stays up. If a parent says jump the district asks "how high?" The school was painted a very neutral light blue a few years back, and one parent...one, up on the hill, in their very nice home, called and said they wanted it repainted beige. The next week, the school was being re-painted beige, at taxpayers expense.

The teachers, if they care, are pulling their hair out over the earlier examples in my other post. Some have simply said enough. At least a half dozen very talented, very experience teachers have left this school in the last couple of years, in a great neighborhood, not to retire, but to change professions entirely. They're just done.

And the teacher who don't care are just marking time, passing the kids on up the ladder, with no regard for anything other than "pass the test."

It's a mess.

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Mar 6, 2024, 2:54 PM
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Disheartening to hear that it's not just our county. We have similar examples. We are a predominantly "red-hat" county. This is the group think part. Our school board just spent $14 grand studying which books to ban from our public schools. They ended up banning 4 books. Don't ask me which ones, I don't remember. Talking with a teacher I told her y'all remember that $14 grand when you're asking parents to buy paper towels, hand sanitizer and tissues the first day of school. Or when you're spending your own money for supplies next time you go to the ballot box.

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Wow, that was a lot to take in. Had to read some of it twice. My take away from that:

The is no objective reality

You're not in the "math is racist" group. Or an old joke: When you ask someone what is 2 + 2 they say 4. I you ask an accountant what is 2 + 2, they'll say "what do you want it to be?"

You can't judge a fish by their ability to climb a tree.

For the Us vs Them. Politically speaking that's we we've been for a while. Must be a bad idea if it's them or a good idea if it's us. The trouble I'm seeing now is that you're not really an "us" if you do not think like the rest of "us". Now, to be an "us", I have to sign on to a huge grocery list of tenants or I'm just an "us" in name only. That, is the danger of "group think".

Group think isn't necessarily a problem? So we can't say the emperor has no clothes?

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>So we can't say the emperor has no clothes?

THAT is the textbook definition of BAD Group Think, lol

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I'm unbiased, never lie and never joke about either.

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It amazes me the amount of people in this world who are not critical thinkers, and who have no desire to be. My wife is one of them. We were at dinner the other night and I went around the table asking what everyone thought god looked like. She spouted off something about the father son and holy ghost, and didn't even really think about her answer. My kids on the other hand are already like me. My son especially is already asking questions like "who made god" and stuff like that which I think is beautiful.

I can honestly say I do not have any biases. If I do, they are against the things I should be biased for, like religion and right wing politics, but both seem to make me cringe. I've always been a contrarian...a man without a country so to speak. My parents have said that the sunday school teachers used to come to them frustrated because of the tough questions I would ask that they didn't have an answer for. I've always been like a hound dog sniffing out the BS.

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>I can honestly say I do not have any biases.

How would one determine they had no biases?

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To be fair I tried and named a couple.

On a lighter note I’m definitely biased against SEC football.

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I feel ya. My son has developed a remarkable BS radar. He's far more conservative than I ever was at his age (college student). Short story, we had a youth director at church that was hammering away at diversity, equality and inclusivity. This was also the current focus of some of the youth programs at Montreat. At Montreat he was made to feel like he was the bad guy in all the small group sessions and never wanted to go back. In our own youth group they were to read a book on white privledge. When I asked if he read it and what his thought were, he just said he thought it was stupid. Point being that a lot of people have been very quick to jump on the DEI train. Not saying good or bad. But should a kid at church functions be made to feel guilty or uncomfortable about who he is? Isn't that counter to what the entire DEI is all about?

As far as "God the father". I really never thought about before, but for those that grew up without a father or with one not so great, what does that mean to them?

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>But should a kid at church functions be made to feel guilty or uncomfortable about who he is?

Um... i've got some bad news for ya

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Mar 6, 2024, 9:21 AM
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That's the one you plucked from that? Nobody should be singled out and made to feel bad about themselves at church. Yeah, I know they do. Every Sunday. That's not really what I was getting at.
What I took issue with, and what I actually spoke to the youth director about with my children (teenagers at the time) was that to be talking about being inclusive on one hand at the same time having 2 kids in the program that felt very excluded. His response was "good. That was my intent" Just seemed counter productive and really....really had to resist asking who the F*** are you to make that call?

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Mar 6, 2024, 9:33 AM
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>That's the one you plucked from that?

Yes. It's deeply ironic. Your son definitely should not be singled out but come on..

>What I took issue with, and what I actually spoke to the youth director about with my children (teenagers at the time) was that to be talking about being inclusive on one hand at the same time having 2 kids in the program that felt very excluded. His response was "good.

Again, yeah I don't agree with this youth leader, but that is precisely what's happening to the other side of the aisle ALL THE TIME at church. Nobody gaf when it's happening to them. They say "good. That was my intent".

>That was my intent" Just seemed counter productive and really....really had to resist asking who the F*** are you to make that call?

I agree 100%

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Mar 6, 2024, 10:30 AM [ in reply to Re: Critical Thinkers ]
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I’m kind of torn on this. On one hand I do think the conversation about equality needs to be had and definitely in the church as the most segregated time in America is on Sunday morning. But on the other the youth pastor does sound like a ###### and needs to teach what he’s paid to which I assume is the Bible.

“ As far as "God the father". I really never thought about before, but for those that grew up without a father or with one not so great, what does that mean to them?”

Yes everyone has a different description of god. Fordtunate Son kind of inspired me to ask that question as we were talking about that the other day.

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Re: Critical Thinkers


Mar 9, 2024, 10:01 PM
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What are your biased comments?

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